Voicemail

Could some of you guys answer this for me?

I don't understand anything about this- it's truly gotta be a guy thing. But my now ex boyfriend and I had dated off and on for almost a year. It was awesome in the beginning everything was perfect and I was so happy- I think he was too. We dated two months and after some odd vibes I was getting (I felt like emotionally he wasn't there or he just didn't care anymore) we broke up suddenly. I found out the next day that he began dating someone from his work the same night. (We NEVER dated because he was always working, and now he starts dating someone from work. Sucks, huh?) I was devastated. After two weeks he writes me and tells me that he wanted to tell me the next day that he was wrong but after my friends got onto him he decided not to because he got angry. We started dating again and everything seemed fine we pretty much did all of our communicating at school because our schedules were so different and all of that stuff- we could never even get a hold of each other on the phone. We tried to make plans for a date and it fell through (because of my parents). We tried again and it fell through (because of his parents). Summer started and I left town for a month. I was only home on weekends and we still planned to see each other. I called during the first week of the break and I couldn't get a hold of him. Then the next week, the next week, and the next. For over a month we didn't talk and I figured he had called it quits and didn't have the balls to tell me. So after a lot of stress, crying, and sleepless nights, I called his cell phone to tell him that since he didn't have the decency to call me, I was calling to tell him over his voicemail that it was over. The rest of my summer continued without him and I heard from a girl at our school that he said we were still dating. After crying somemore, more sleepless nights, and more stress, I called him a week later from a friend's phone and he answered. During the first time that I had heard his voice in over a month he tells me that he enlisted and wants to know what's up with me ( I was crying). I asked him if he got my message and he said no. I told him what it said as I got more upset. We talked until the phone lost signal and when I called him again I got his voicemail. When school started back after two weeks we started talking about dating again. He said he never got any of my calls and if anyone was avoiding calls it was me because I "wasn't answering his phone calls". ( It can be hard to get ahold of me because we have dial-up and everyone is always on the internet, but COME ON!). We got really close and it was almost like we were dating again but we weren't. He was all over me and I told him that I wasn't into being friends with benefits and that he needed to get his priorities straight. He got angry. About a week later he starts drifting away from "us" and starts hanging out with my best friend. They started getting close. They started talking about dating. After two weeks, he dropped her for another girl on his bus, and after a week dropped her for the girl he works with again. I don't understand it at all. He's changed so much since we ended and he can't seem to make up his mind with anyone. I don't know if he ever cared, what he expects, or why he's doing this. I'm trying to get over him, but it's hard. I still love him more than anything and even though I'm mad at him and don't want another relationship with him, I can't stop thinking about him. Can some of you guys give me some answers to these questions. I know that this is a long entry but he's so "back and forth" I felt like I had to enter it all. Please help me with this. I don't mind long answers either lol. Thanks in advance.

Public Comments

1. the question is toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo long cant be bothered to read as its 11 pm
2. his at that stage, a stage where he does not know what he wants but GIRLSSSS(notice the ssss), BEER/LIQUOR, HOOKAH, PARTIES... he will grow out of it, but it is not right for you to wait. as easy as it says and hard to do, move on! his playing with your feelings, and other girls feelings. let him be a boy who will find his way to grow up and be a man...someday... as for you, let time heel your wounds.. but do not wait for him. the only way to get over him is to erase the possible contacts you can possibly think of for him. Erase his phone number, do not call him, do not myspace/facebook him, do not see him. The only way to forget someone is to completely make them not exist in your life.
3. WOW... YOUR PATHETIC! MOVE ON, YOUR EX IS A SLEEVE! He did that to you because you let him! He lied to you, so you wouldn't be mad. All the evidence you need is right in your question! HE NEVER CARED OR HE WOULDN'T HAVE DONE THAT TO YOU!!!