Voicemail - Why do my parents keep threatening to kick me out of the house?

Why do my parents keep threatening to kick me out of the house?

It's retarded. They know I can't afford to move out and I know my mom wouldn't have the heart to make me homeless, so what's the point of threatening me? It's not like I completely freeload and never do anything with my life but that's how she treats me. She thinks I don't do enough around the house. I admit that i'm a messy person (just messy but not dirty...there's a difference) and it upsets her. It's not that I don't care. It's just that i've been that way my whole life and I have trouble keeping my bedroom clean..it's part of my personality I guess you could say. I'm almost 26 but i'm a college student working on 2 bachelor's degrees. I work part time, I pay my own cell phone bill, internet, my own credit card bills, car insurance, health insurance, etc. I'm just sick of her always telling me what to do as if i'm a child. She even said that she has the right to control me. She tries to tell me when to wake up in the morning, when to go to sleep, that I have to eat dinner at a certain time, then she'll call looking for me when I go out with friends late at night expecting me to come home. It makes it really embarassing if i'm out on a date. She'll then leave 10 of the same voicemail saying I shouldn't shut my phone off and that I need to get home. I never shut my phone off. It's just that sometimes I can't get to my phone or I don't hear it if i'm in a noisy place. I'm an adult! Do you think my mom is crazy and too controlling? She even tries to tell my bro what to do and he's 27 and doesn't even live with us anymore. She has a bad attitude and thinks she's right about everything including things where people have said she was in the wrong. Don't tell me to move out...like I said, I can't afford it financially and as a student working on 2 Bachelor's degrees, doing an internship (unpaid), and a part time job, there's not really a way for me to get a second job to support myself. I try to respect my parents...it's more like my mom doesn't respect me. Talks a lot of trash about me and school...she thinks i'm gonna fail all my classes and that i'm wasting her money, yet I have the grades to show her i'm doing fine. Makes no sense.

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If you can't handle her controlling you, start trying to control her.
maybe your mother is just over reacting of what u have done! try to talk to her heart-heart..
You probably should have moved out about 5 years ago. Start your own life, by yourself.
its cuz your 26 dude your not a kid anymore and well i think that by now ushould be able to aford a place to stay but i dnt really know can u asnwer mine plesaehttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Atvx3Pv5ZhVdUoVGyLVzCeDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100107152941AAtsamB
Parents normally act that way when they feel there "offspring" are irresponsible. It's cool that you pursuing a degree, working and paying for your own stuff, but bottom line is you are still under her roof. To sum it up i'm 98% sure she just thinks your immature, thats why shes treating you like a kid.
when i was reading the first paragraph i was thinking this was a whiny 14 year old but man you're 26 years old! It's your parents home, show a little respect and if you can't take it move out and you can have your own rules until then stop complaining when you're not even paying rent!
Yea, she treats you like you're 15. You're 26, tell her to stop being a prick and give you some space.
It dosen't matter how old you get--parents do this. I dread Mom visiting-- I get crap, crap, crap. It is not going to stop as long as you are living there. And frankly, it is her house--so you really should try to keep you behavior within bounds of what she feels is not "evictable". But, if you don't sweat it, this ordeal will be a lot more pleasant for you and her.
Hey just think opposite - Now thing somebody is not obeying you and doing what exactly u said because of this ur mind is heated and u start doing same as your mom do. I am sure that ur mother have some internal problem, she is having some tension and want to share with you but not able to share, so do one thing just take her to dinner and just convey her about you feeling and thoughts and give her assurance that u will spoil your life, and ask her does she have any problem...and so on. Bro this will work try it
If her reasoning is that you don't do enough around the house, then try doing more. If you increase what you are doing around the house, what excuse is she going to have? Also, if you KNOW she won't kick you out then what is your problem? You don't HAVE to listen to her, you are an adult.
Wow. I agree with the other poster. You sound like a whiny 15yo. That's probably why she's treating you like you're 15. You're living in her house, put up with it. If you don't want to put up with it move out. Personally I think she should kick you out so you figure out how to be a contributing member of society.
That's a drawback of living with mommy!
Parents tend to see their children as kids even after they've grown up. There's so many things that could be taking place. She could be trying to drive you crazy in an attempt to get you to leave, she could be worried about you and how you will handle your life when you leave (so she attempts to tell you what to do now), she could be emotionally dependant on you, or a number of other things. However, it does seem even though she is controlling she does care for you. If you haven't done anything contratry to what she thinks about you failing, she may mistakingly believe that because you can't take care of your room how can you take care of something as important as two degrees. On the plus side, she is paying for your schooling, housing, and probably food. and while you don't have much of a choice, just be greatful. Try cleaning up your room and keeping it clean, do some choirs to help around the house (I know your busy, but even washing the dishes or vaccuming every once in a while will help), offer to pick up some groceries for her. She may also miss you. You seem to have quite a busy schedule. Maybe she would like you to eat dinner with her. She appears from your question- to WANT a mother/child relationship with you that includes your family chores, keeping your room clean, and coming home to eat. -and not just a house guest that comes and goes as he needs. Plus, if you're doing your internship you are most likely at least in your sophmore- if not Junior year? You only have to deal with it a few more years, until you can move out.
If you don't like the living conditions, move out. It's her house. Respect the rules, or leave. You should be thankful she lets you mooch off of her. Instead you whine like a 14 year old drama queen.