Voicemail

What would you say if you were in my position?

Ok so there is this guy I really like. And like we used to talk all the time Now we barely talk and it seems like he is ignoring me. Like we also used to hang out like everyday now we don't hang out at all. So I'm leaving on wensday for 2 months and during that 2 months im going to be on a trip for a week where i can't have a cell phone or internet for a week. So i was going to call him and hope he doesn't answer and leave him a voicemail that says something like this 'ok look you seem like your mad at me or annoyed with me, so if you want I won't talk to you anymore and I'll leave you alone. I'm going to e gone for a week. But I just wanted to say something before I left. I'm sure you already know, but I want you to hear it from me. I really like you, and it will be hard for me but if it's what you want I won't talk to you. Well I guess this is goodbye for now.' What do you think? give me your honest opinon. And is there anything you would add or take out? Please Help I only have a few more days before I need to say this. Thanks Ok, I leave in 3 days. I don't have a chance to see him. I mean we have been talking alot more lately than usual. And he still brings me around his friends like during the school day. And I guess part of the reason we can't hang is we both have to work. and stuff. But we have attempted to hang but our plans alway seem to not work out because we like hanging out in a group. Its just easier that way.

Public Comments

1. Ok, this is not going to be what you want to hear, but do NOT leave that message. If a guy wants to see you, he will find a way. If he wants to talk to you, he'll call you. The fact that he hasn't called and seems to be ignoring you is a pretty clear-cut sign that he's not interested. So, in my opinion, why put yourself out there when you know what the answer is going to be? Sorry, girl...I would just go on your trip and use it as a time to move on.
2. I would have said the same in this position. I think that very good to be clear on what's you position about him and to clarify things about the situation between the two of you.
3. Oh no, don't do that honey......when you don't know what's going on in his mind, leaving a message like that could appear very desperate. Plus, he's got it to play to others if he is that kind of jerk. I'd use the 2 months apart to move on with your life, forget about him.....if he misses you, let him call or email you - with the exception of the 1 week you mentioned, he will be able to do so, yes? I bet you meet somebody else during the next 2 months and won't give this guy a 2nd thought, if he's ignoring you, he doesn't damn well deserve your friendship, let alone anything else. Have a good trip and be happy!
4. I think you should speak to him and ask him what the deal is. He might be interested in you but unsure how you feel. If you ask him before you leave at least you will know either way and you can go and enjoy your holiday. If he's not interested then I'm sure there will be plenty of other guys who will be. Maybe you'll meet a cute guy on your hols. Good luck
5. Perfect. Just be honest when you leave him the voicemail. But what If he does answer the phone? Then try to be calm and say exactly what you want to say. Since you are just leaving for a week don't make it dramatic like you are leaving foreverx] Hope this is helpful. •jewl•