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Is this just the lonely heart gowing closer?

About six months ago, my family and I decide to try something new. As two professional adults, my wife and I had come to terms with looking forward to new challenges and career options. So we rented a semi and loaded up all that we could and moved 900 miles from where I am from. But only about 75 miles away from her childhood location. The only problem is, she still is behind after all of the things I went through to move US. Whenever she is here she always has her phone on and will drop anything to answer the dam thing. But just today i was trying to call he for some career advice (as I have not found a job yet), and her voicemail at work said that she left early, (she leaves greetings) and there was no answer on her cell until about 2 hours after she was available. Am I just insecure because I've been burned in the past, or because I am now not the most successful(Because she absolutely smokin hot, but that's not why we're together), or what? Just thought I would try here. Thanks I feel that she may be growing closer to other people (men) back there because she is there 4-5 days a week, and when she is here, it seems like I'm not. She stays in hotels during the week and has expense accounts, arrrgh. Or am I jealous of her success? But the burner is that before the move I was top at my profession at about $25 an hour, and she is at about $19. I know money isn't everything, but something is missing in my life something HUGE.

Public Comments

1. It sounds like she has needed the space. It's very important for a woman to feel secure financially in a relationship. It's not really that money matters to us but most of us have been brought up to believe that the man is the provider in a relationship. But then again maybe she is having second thoughts about the move. It is a drastic change to leave behind everything you've beocme used to. Good luck.
2. it soulds like you need to have a nondefensive heart to heart talk. Perpare for it by getting that open feeling and a quiet atmosphere, tell her your real concerns and really open up and be emotionally vunerable, you really try to find out how she is feeling and if she is doing okay. Create a space that is safe and don't worry about being burned, it happens to all of us and it will probably hapen again if we worry alot about it.
3. Am sorry you are in that position, but remember the power of the mind, the more you entertain wrong thought the more it becomes a reality and you will be burnt the second time so first and foremost banish those negative thoughts and trust your wifey second talk to her openly and tell her your concerns am sure she will give you the answers you are looking for and also remember a man is the head of the family and the provider so its not out of place for you to feel insecure when youa are not able to provide for your family, however dont dwell on that instead do something about it look for a job if you cannot look for a job then change your attitude that will help you to feel secure, remember its not easy for a wife to cheat on her husband unless the sex life is dead! so work on that area too while you sort yourself out God bless you and keep your marriage safe cheers